Every Great Comeback Begins with a Breakup

Once you find your why and get honest about where you want to focus, you realize something pretty quickly: you’ve got some breaking up to do.

For me, starting with Food as Fuel and Movement & Strength made the list obvious. The crap food in my cupboards that I buy “for my husband”? Yeah, right. Pre-packed, hyper-processed, engineered-for-cravings food that I pretend isn’t mine? It’s mine. And it’s gone. Bye-bye.

That breakup is actually the easy one.

The Harder Breakup

My recliner.

That chair and I has been there through thick and thin. Through surgeries. Through autoimmune flares. Through exhaustion so deep I could barely think straight. After long days of work travel, stress, climbing ladders — that chair was waiting for me like a loyal dog.

But somewhere along the way, it stopped being comfort and started being containment.

It became my emotional support recliner. Please tell me I’m not the only one.

I can’t sit in that chair night after night, half-watching TV, half-numbing out, and call that participating in my life. I can’t build strength from a cushion. I can’t expand my identity from a remote control. I can’t live my comeback from a seated position.

This Isn’t Just About Food and Movement

Every pillar requires a breakup.

Food means breaking up with chaos and convenience disguised as comfort.

Movement means breaking up with inertia and “I’ll start Monday.”

Mindset means breaking up with shrinking, with playing small, with telling myself I’m too old or too far gone.

Passion, Spirit & Heart? That means breaking up with numbness. With autopilot. With spending my time scrolling instead of creating, hiding instead of contributing.

If I want to spend time doing things I love — hiking, writing, building, speaking, engaging — I have to break up with what’s holding me back.

Professionally.

Spiritually.

Physically.

Emotionally.

This comeback isn’t about perfection.

It’s about respect. Respecting the life I say I want enough to let go of what’s quietly keeping me stuck.

Some breakups are loud. Most are small, daily decisions.

Put the food back.

Stand up from the chair.

Go for the walk.

Raise your hand.

Have the hard conversation.

Turn off the noise.

Every great comeback begins with a breakup.

And I’m done staying in relationships that are shrinking my life - even if they are comfortable.